“The more something threatens your identity, the more you will avoid it” ~Manson’s Law
We all, sometimes, daydream about what life would be like if we did something we always wanted to. “What if we only had the guts to take that first step?” and we convince ourselves that “If I ever got the opportunity, I’d definitely do it”.
Then one day we get the opportunity. It’s at our hands grasp but most of us don’t take it. Why? Because if we took it, would we be able to describe ourselves the same way we do now? Would we still identify ourselves the same way? What if we were identified differently by others?
I personally think that the factors that make this transition in identity such a difficulty are – Fear and society.
Let’s talk society. No one is liked by everyone. Similarly, no one is hated by everyone, either. No matter what you do or don’t do, you’re going to have haters. So would you rather be hated while doing something you don’t like or while doing something you like? I don’t know about you, but I’d choose the latter.
Fear. We’re scared of failure. Everyone is. No one likes failure. What if we go from being the “Person who wants to do something” to the “Person who failed”? Right? I think this is something we all need to work on and change. Why look at it as a person who failed. Why not “The person who tried their best”. The person who doesn’t even try is a bigger failure in the book of life.
Change your perspective and it will change everything.
After all, the same picture could be seen as a sunrise and a sunset. None of these are a wrong perspective but what do you love more, the morning or the night?
Pic Source : Clicked it myself :3 Literature source : The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F... by Mark Manson